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Re: Question about Cypriots

Postby Angel12 » Tue Dec 25, 2012 9:51 pm

Hi, I'm so glad to find this post. I too have had the same experiences with Cypriots but to top it off, I had gone there to live with a Cypriot man! I went there blindly optimistic, no job in place, no family or friends.. I'd been in a relationship with this guy for 3 years (meaning the relationship was about me flying to Cyprus as much as I could, him never leaving Cyprus "for work reasons") and eventually culminating a permanent move for me there. As you can imagine, I was immersed amongst Cypriots, his family and friends. I was really pleasant and happy and kind with everyone, if a little shy, and the realisation of how different the culture and Cypriot mentality was was a slow, painful one. I started in Cyprus so happy and eager and enthusiastic, I was incredibly loyal to my ex, it had cost me a fortune, and I left one year later exhausted, insecure and very unhappy. Anyway... I had not made any real friends there as I was working in an abusive badly-paid job (Cypriot company, Cypriot workers mostly) and much of our spare time was spent together and/or hanging around my ex's family and friends. I was there a year and, since our break up, not one of these people have contacted me or reached out to me following the split. Infact I have been treated as if I never existed, like trash, like a criminal!? During my time there, there were plenty of comments about me but no one actually bothered to talk to me, truly welcome me or help me find my feet a little. I just found it really odd and disheartening. I offered to take Greek lessons, my ex said he didn't want me becoming 'Cypriot'.. I felt I was being observed, rather than embraced, and my ex would pass on comments to me about what everyone was saying and a lot of these were negative. I never could get my head around how much people talk!! About others!?! And my ex was actually passing on private details about us for his friends' and family's opinions.. I'd just never experienced anything like it, I felt I was at school! I also really didn't think our living together was an issue but of course I slowly realised it was, it's not the best for a girl's reputation. No one visited our house and some of his family were downright frosty with me. It left me very worn out and feeling rubbish and my ex was not rushing to put a ring on my finger! Anyway.. I don't mean to offend any Cypriots but looking back I wish I'd been a little more protective of myself and surrounded myself with more English people or at least those with a little more worldly experience, open-mindedness and who are not part of any gang or live by gang rules - sorry, it's just the way I see it. The break up resulted in massive personal and financial losses for me while I think my ex got a pat on the back. Yes, Cypriots can be kind but it is fleeting and I felt insincere, there was a lack of genuine interest in anyone's culture or background or interests other their own - and there was only so much hanging around in coffee shops, bars, dinner tables gossiping I could take! Make sure you have people around you who genuinely have your back, if you are a foreigner in Cyprus or relying heavily on Cypriots. And PS - I am actually half Cypriot!! Think thats why my ex got with me in the first place! But I feel 100% English having been raised in the beautiful English countryside, my Cypriot father was mostly absent!
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Re: Question about Cypriots

Postby johnny1 » Wed Dec 26, 2012 5:59 pm

you couldnt have said it better.im half cypriot to...and i can honestly say that cypriots are about the scum of this planet...my father told me..never trust a cypriot...how true
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Re: Question about Cypriots

Postby yialousa1971 » Mon Dec 31, 2012 2:33 am

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Re: Question about Cypriots

Postby repulsewarrior » Mon Dec 31, 2012 11:04 pm

...maybe in Cyprus you can meet the worst a Society can offer, because there is as well, the best that Society can offer.

Cyprus may seem unfriendly, i think that has more to do with the Urban culture in the world of Free Markets, than it has to do with Cypriotness, it may be that Cypriots appear more obnoxious because they are good at this lifestyle that places individual pursuits above what is custom.
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Re: Question about Cypriots

Postby marios47 » Wed Jan 02, 2013 6:25 am

Hey I found this topic extremely interesting and I want to share my opinion as well.
I was born and raised in Cyprus by 100% Cypriot parents.

I'm 21 and I'm studying in the Czech republic.
I always thought that our behavior as a society is really strange. Pushing away everyone, not wanting to embrace people dissimilar to us and condemn everyone that is not a Cypriot. The racism against the gays, blacks, chinese... you name it. Even the Greeks that we are so culturally similar. I have a few friends that were approached by gays and their first reaction was to beat them up. Like they have to pay for being gay. Other are when a guy approaches a girl that I'm talking to they will say: Let's beat him up. For what? Because he was talking to a girl I was talking to. Other incidents are swearing at black people like Pakistanis and telling them to get off our island. These have been common behaviors I was exposed to and still am.

Another big issue is church. YOU DIDN'T GO TO CHURCH FOR XMAS? then you shall rot in hell. There is no other religion, nor atheism is accepted because the man in the sky is watching over us and making sure we stay racist. And don't even bother opening a discussion about this subject. I did that a lot of times and concluded that most people go to church because they 'have to' not because they need to. And most of my fellow citizens will confess that they don't really believe in God but they go to church to keep their parents happy and the neighbor's mouths shut.

Before I even came to the Czech republic I heard rumors from a lot of my friends about how awful Czech people are. About how closed minded they are, how unfriendly they are and what a terrible place it is to live. Cypriot students that have NEVER EVEN MET a Czech person and still, they hate them. They say things like: 'They have a weird look on their face when they look at me on the bus' or 'You can feel that people are not nice just by walking down the street' or 'some Czech guy spitted on the ground in front of me.' Things that don't make sense and just generalize.
This is every conversation that Cypriots have in Czech republic: 'Blah, blah,blah... Czechs suck, czech republic suck, we are better than them, they are taking advantage of our money' ...EVERY TIME !
The funny thing is that they chose to come here and study here. No one is forcing them to be in a country they don't like but still, they are here complaining about everyone around them and not looking at the constant negative behavior that i pushing other people away.
I have met extremely nice Czech people and some not so friendly(waitresses, bar staff). I don't expect everyone to be jolly and polite all the time but I am trying to be a realist.

To be honest I don't plan on living in Cyprus. Only to visit my family.
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Re: Question about Cypriots

Postby formaturew » Wed Jan 02, 2013 12:57 pm

michalakis wrote:hello, I'd like to put in my 2 cents

first of all, for the girl that says 'cypriots dont understand that women and men can be friends, they all want to get in my pants'. you are such a cliche. You probably wont listen to what I have to say so I will use other peoples words, as Oscar wilde so poetical put it, “Between men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship.” And as my highschool buddy friedrich Nietzsche once said to me after a few glasses of vino, "A woman may very well form a friendship with a man, but for this to endure, it must be assisted by a little physical antipathy."


as for the rest of you that characterize cypriots as barbarians and unevolved, you are just generalizing and projecting the bad behaviour of a few on a whole race, its like when one black guy steals something and suddenly all blacks are thiefs, give me a break. When I used to work in cyprus I met the people that you are describing, but they used to be foreigners, and now I am abroad and the same thing goes on here. I have suffered bullying, betrails, backstabbings and anything you can imagine from armenians, polish, dutch english spanish people etc.

this phenomenon is called 'people are all pieces of shit' the sooner you accept that the sooner you will be on the path to happiness, realize that people are not born good and loose their way. People are born bad and have to find the right way. So Just keep looking, and when you find a person that is worthy of your friendship then keep them close.

as a sidenote, some of you are probably just looking out of your own heads, have you ever stopped to think that it might be you and not everyone else? if you are in a room alone thinking 'why is noone talking to me', maybe everyone else is in the other room talking about how you keep avoiding them, it happens to me, I am shy by nature, so I dont talk to people which they mistake as me being snobish. Also have you considered the fact that you really might not be as good a person as you think you are and that is why people do not want to hang out with you?



You have right my friend.. I am from Greece and i have good friends here.. I also have good frends and in other countries...

The whole thing is about people.. Not the nationality of them.. In Every country you will see the asshole and the good one.. Make your choices.. I see people her In Cyprus hates me because i am Greek. I also found people like me..

It is a close society of course but it is a small country..

Love is our relegion..

DO NOT LOOK the others nationality.. WE ARE ALL PEOPLE.. WAKE UP!!
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Re: Question about Cypriots

Postby Svetlana » Wed Jan 02, 2013 1:14 pm

Having lived in Cyprus for many years, I have had many experiences with Cypriots, occasionaly bad - but generally good. What has come across is that those Cypriots who have spent time abroad are far more open to friendships with 'foreigners' and much more open minded . Cyprus is a small island and it can be very insular, like all of us, Cypriot people are conditioend by their upbringing.
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