Get Real! wrote:Doesn’t that entirely depend on your level of exhibitionism?
repulsewarrior wrote:i suppose dressing very conservatively as a woman, and accompanied by your mom, you will be respected,
I may have understated a bit when I described myself as "somewhat conspicuously" transgender. My usual style in my own country is conservative skirt, boring shirt, moderate heels, ... and a beard. No, I'm not counting on that look passing unremarked elsewhere (and even here it's mostly a matter of being seen often enough that people get used to me in a neighbourhood, and bored with reacting to me, so that after that point I can go about my business there in peace -- I don't expect that trick to work in the length of time I'll be in Cyprus). More recently, there have been certain developments thanks to my finally getting tired of waiting for The Right Time and starting on hormones.
I'm not so much 'exhibitionist' as 'unashamed' -- I'm not trying to attract attention or put on a show; I'm happiest when folks get used to me and stop seeing me as strange any more. I'm just not willing to compromise on my gender identity to get that "on my own turf". (Obviously, being a guest/tourist elsewhere is different, just because I don't know how far I can push or what the pushback will be.)
So as far as I can see my choices are: dress as I do at home (most likely to cause trouble and guaranteed to upset Mom), wear boyclothes and be seen as a man with (still small but hard to overlook) breasts (that are not shaped like "moobs"), or shave and get a crash course in makeup and buy a wig (the hair on my head is starting to grow back thanks to the pills but only slowly) and worry about 'passing' (and confuse the heck out of my relatives, who I hope would get used to the change after a while).
I dunno, maybe option #2 and slouching a lot? (It'll still make swimming interesting, rather coming out of the water afterward n a wet t-shirt. And a month of feeling like I'm wearing a disguise is going to feel creepy and uncomfortable.) Option #3 is, I think, where I'm headed eventually, but it's a little scary considering how much I'd need to learn and practice in a short time -- I've never tried to 'pass' before. (And also scary because it's a change from the sort of intermediate-gender zone where I've been for so long.)
After reading the comments here so far, I'm still worried and wondering what the safest path is, but I'm a lot less nervous than I was before I asked.