The Best Cyprus Community

Skip to content


Looking for an Old Love --- Christou

Looking for friends? For a boyfriend/girlfriend? Lover? Pen-pal?

Postby Debbie » Fri May 12, 2006 8:09 pm

He wasn't the type to shag everything in sight -- just the one's that didn't need bags over their heads.

He probably has forgotten about me and I deserve that.

Don't get me wrong, I'm happy in my life now -- just looking to see that he is as well.... and if the re-connection enriches both of our lives ..... bonus
User avatar
Debbie
New Member
New Member
 
Posts: 47
Joined: Wed May 10, 2006 1:25 am
Location: Ontario, Canada

Postby complexity » Mon May 15, 2006 2:42 pm

so deb did you find him ?

I did mention how...
complexity
Member
Member
 
Posts: 52
Joined: Fri May 12, 2006 9:10 am
Location: Nicosia

Postby Debbie » Mon May 15, 2006 6:09 pm

No I have not located him
If "social engineering" is the same there as here, I do not believe I will be pursuing this method of search....however I do thank you for making a suggestion for my consideration.
I will continue to search -- if it is meant to be it will happen --- cross your fingers for me
Thanks again
User avatar
Debbie
New Member
New Member
 
Posts: 47
Joined: Wed May 10, 2006 1:25 am
Location: Ontario, Canada

Postby Debbie » Sat Jun 10, 2006 12:20 am

Do Dreams Come True ?

You bet. I have been so fortunate to have been in touch with my dear friend Andreas. I was almost ready to abandon my search, believing he had returned to Cyprus and I would never be able to locate him ….. when out of no-where he contacted me.

Now for all you doubting scoffers out there, I’m 98% certain he is the same Andreas I am seeking … I have asked many different questions only he would know the answers to.

Mad-dog wrote:
WOW thats me did i used to call you floppy ears

– including the unique little nickname he had for me …..and mad-dog “floppy ears” was still not it.

Complexity wrote
a) You could find a happily married man with a wife and children
b) thinking the same way you do.. and you both live a moment or a lifetime together..


Complexity – it looks like you would have lost a bet placing your money on “a” we are much closer to “b”.

So to a few forum members who have stroked me with a broad paintbrush and labeled me an adulterer on the prowl --- put your minds at ease I am not walking into a happy marriage or any marriage for the matter --- I will not be destroying any lives or scarring any children (or so he says anyway --- FYI one of the 1st questions I asked).

I do not know where this will go for either of us --- there is much to catch up on --- destiny remains unknown, but a fresh beginning to re-establishing a friendship is in place .... as you said Complexity it could be for a moment or a lifetime.

Hoping for the best that is meant to be !!!!
User avatar
Debbie
New Member
New Member
 
Posts: 47
Joined: Wed May 10, 2006 1:25 am
Location: Ontario, Canada

Postby Sotos » Sat Jun 10, 2006 12:44 am

when out of no-where he contacted me


:shock: Was this a coincidence? Or he found out that you were looking for him?
User avatar
Sotos
Leading Contributor
Leading Contributor
 
Posts: 10642
Joined: Wed Aug 17, 2005 2:50 am

Postby cypezokyli » Sat Jun 10, 2006 1:18 am

all the best to both of you
cypezokyli
Regular Contributor
Regular Contributor
 
Posts: 2563
Joined: Sun Jul 17, 2005 6:11 pm
Location: deutschland

Postby Debbie » Sat Jun 10, 2006 1:45 am

Sotos wrote:
Was this a coincidence? Or he found out that you were looking for him?


According to him -- a little of both
User avatar
Debbie
New Member
New Member
 
Posts: 47
Joined: Wed May 10, 2006 1:25 am
Location: Ontario, Canada

Postby MARIKKOU » Sun Jun 11, 2006 3:42 pm

Dms007.......are you suggeting that even after they meet..... after so many years ........that she should still keep her clothes on?

What wwill be the purpose of the meeting then? just to have coffee together?

In any case what make you think that the guy might have something to offer her in any case.................at his age?
MARIKKOU
Member
Member
 
Posts: 119
Joined: Tue Mar 07, 2006 7:16 pm
Location: Pirgos

Postby Bill » Sun Jun 11, 2006 9:24 pm

Oh dear ----
Has anyone ever visited a town that they were once familiar with but haven't been to for say 30 years .
The main features are still there -- a bit worn and jaded now with age but the rest of the town is virtually unrecognised and it's now hard to find your way round -- you feel you never really knew the place as its changed so much over the years.

Now if you relate this to Debbies situation you will see that there is a possibility that her memories may be clouded by time -- and Andeas may be a completly different person -- nothing like the dashing young man she once knew many years ago.

The ultimate reason for responding to this post was that about 10 years ago I received a phone call from an old girl friend from 40 ish years ago-- which was a bit of a shock -- she wanted to know how I was doing -- whether I was married etc etc.

Seems her husband had died a few years earlier and now she was all alone -- she had hit on the idea of calling on old boy friends in the hope of rekindling something that existed all those years ago.

As I work for a nationwide company ( and have done for many years ) it wasn't really difficult to eventually find me.

We talked for ages about various things that have happened over the years since we last saw each other --- in particular about our children --- which worried me as I half expected her to say her 40 year old daughter wanted to meet her real father -- well I couldn't understand why she was interested in finding me so was suspicious of her motives.

The matter didn't progress any further and I declined the invitation to meet up as I felt that it would serve no purpose and any "magic" between us had been lost all those years ago.

I still can't understand why she wanted to contact me after all these years ( hence the worry over her 40 year old daughter ) --- we are no longer in contact as I think the two very long phone calls convinced her that we had both changed and grown miles apart over the years and it would be a disappointment to both of us if we met.

It's nice to have memories ---- but it's not allways a good idea to relive them
Bill
Regular Contributor
Regular Contributor
 
Posts: 1903
Joined: Tue May 16, 2006 10:58 am
Location: ~ Sunny South East Coast of Cyprus

Postby Debbie » Mon Jun 12, 2006 1:10 am

Oh dear Bill -- if you read the very last portion of my message

I do not know where this will go for either of us --- there is much to catch up on --- destiny remains unknown, but a fresh beginning to re-establishing a friendship is in place .... as you said Complexity it could be for a moment or a lifetime.


We may one share several e-mail messages and telephone calls. If the gap in distance was not so great, perhaps even meet a time or two .... however both Andreas and I realize that time has passed, we have grown, changed and lived 1/2 a lifetime....it may very well be God's intention to provide for only for a moment, but during that moment I have been on top of the world and I now know for certain that he has lived a happy, healthy life.... and that Bill was always the reason for my search --- nothing sinister, just to catch up with a friend share some memories and listen to his accomplishments, the stories leading to those accomplishments.

A friend is always there .... willing and available to talk about past experiences or future dreams --- your unwillingness to meet up with your friend because the "magic" was gone and therefore it would serve no purpose would lead me to think perhaps she was never more than an acquaintance who was misguided into believing she was more.

Becoming reacqainted with a friend does not mean there need to be any strings attached .. you just need to be willing to exhibit some simple caring. Should the opportunity for more become available and compatability offers a green light, who knows ..... no expectations.

Marikkou -- there is definitely more to meeting an old friend outside of engaging in an impromptu romp in the hay and who knows what he may or may not have to offer .... at his age ...

Perhaps the better question is at my age can I keep up with what he has to offer....I would like to believe I am up for any challenge, but I think we are a little way off from that stage yet.
User avatar
Debbie
New Member
New Member
 
Posts: 47
Joined: Wed May 10, 2006 1:25 am
Location: Ontario, Canada

Previous

Return to Meet New People

Who is online

Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 0 guests