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[gabaston]

demetriou

here's a good shortcut for you.

chuck that keyboard in the bin and get a new one. they're about a fiver.

[gabaston]

miss sunshine

fifty years ago?

thats your granparents generation isnt it

[little.miss.sunshine]

yes well i dont know it was just an example. there are things we do now that people did then but at different times in their lives. i mean it works the other way round too! like in the 60's everyone did drugs, it seemed notrmal and well.. ok but now its very bad for teenagers to do drugs and they get in all sorts of toruble and people mutter bad things about them. i think adults sometimes forget that they were one young and tried things.
(bold sometimes bcoz i dont want to offend anyone!)

[gabaston]

yup they were young and tried things allright.
the main diffrence was they did it without their parents knowledge- they still do things.

what makes you think they're gonna tell you?

[little.miss.sunshine]

oh yer im not asking for any confessions or anything they dont want to be seen to show a bad example. sureley its not slightly safer to be doing it with your parents knowledge. for example i have a friend his dad lets us all come round and drink. he tells us that he'd rather we drink in their house than on the streets. now i really respect this do you not agree? he know that either way we'll drink but we'll be safer where he can keep his eye on us!
my mum feels better if she know where i am and what im doing or else she just worries!

[gabaston]

yup i totally agree.

i have that kind of relationship with two teenage daughters, as do many of my generation, and its not just booze we share.

but somewhere along the line i feel my generation has been maybe too leniant, and some kids really expect too much and get away with too much.

As i stated before its not the kids fault its us with our 60's and 70's liberated attitudes.

I wonder if you'll be so lenient with your kids. Baring in mind how things change, and enviromental conditions in the coming decades.

[little.miss.sunshine]

i see things getting worse. but i watch some parents with their children and i think to myself ill never let that happen to me if that was my kid she'd be accross my knee. for example last week one day i was walking home from school and a particular family with a bad rep drove past as their 10 year old daughter shouted swear words at people walkin down their street. her mother looked unfazed. it was really rude and something my mother wouldnt ever let me do.

[suetoniuspaulinus]

Ms little.miss.sunshine

Please do not think that I was referring to you as a spoilt brat.

Rebellion is a healthy part of maturing and all of us have experimented with sex and drugs and rock'n'roll. Against our parents wishes.

It is part of the learning process. There will be cultural, environmental, social and parental influences that help to shape our characters.

I am probably an old fuddy duddy but the aspect of Mr demetrios posting that irritated me the most was his rudeness towards a well respected member of this Forum.

As far as I am now concerned this "Labels" him.

[gabaston]

thats sounds like bad or lazy parenting to me.

anyway i hope your generation become good parents, and learn from our mistakes. our parents were too strict, we were too lenient. somewhere in the middle would be good.

the problem with liberal parenting is that it installs higher expectancy levels in the children imo

[little.miss.sunshine]

unfortunately for me to say i dont think my generation will be any good at parenting because they will be younger therefore less experienced in life and they seem to not give a toss. they dont have respect themselves so how are they to tech that to their children. this saddens me because i fear this will influence my children in the future. freinds make teenagers who they are unfortunately and their parents dont really have much say anymore.