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[kurupetos]

This seems a sort of "How tall's a Chinaman" question.

Taller than Lordo. He's a gondobotsi.

[Austrian]

Okay I need some advice.

She invited me to her place and wanted to cook for me but still waiting for the concrete date. Invited her later to my place to watch a movie and she agreed.

The she said once that she has a boyfriend but she do not love him but cannot leave him now because it would break his heart...

So how would you handle this situation?

[Kikapu]

Okay I need some advice.

She invited me to her place and wanted to cook for me but still waiting for the concrete date. Invited her later to my place to watch a movie and she agreed.

The she said once that she has a boyfriend but she do not love him but cannot leave him now because it would break his heart...

So how would you handle this situation?

She is too complicated and sounds like more trouble than it’s worth.

Dump the bitch!

[Maximus]

So, if I understand you correctly,

1) She is trying to set a date with you but is stopping short of making concrete plans.

2) She says she has a boyfriend that she doesn’t love but won’t leave because it will break his heart.

She is playing games. Simple as that. It’s classic, she has left you hanging and now she is in your head. She is trying to make it seem like there is hope for both of you but she will probably just string you along. She has also put up a wall (2) like a challenge for you to climb to get her.

She is trying to get you to invest emotionally in her and to chase her around. In Other words, she is trying to toy with you to get the upper hand in the relationship. She wants to also see what kind of man you are.

This is all about her ego and to feel great about her feminine power over men.

Women can be cruel like that and she will play with your emotions if you let her.

I would just say something like, “maybe we can work something out, let me know when you are free”.

Then leave it at that. Don’t call her again, until she reaches out to you. Don’t invest time, money or energy on her until she reaches out to make those concrete plans.

Be friendly with her whenever she happens to be around you and don’t be bothered about the outcome.

Fuck that bitch. <—— this is your attitude.

Meet, talk and have a good time with other women.

[miltiades]

There are loads of women in Cyprus, even an old ...dog like me still attracts them, I wonder if my ...wallet has anything to do with me being such a ...catch
Took this 34 year old blonde Russian, what else, out for dinner , all the frills. Now she texts me that she is in .....love with me been around the block a few times so I just have a good time until the ...next one!!

[Austrian]

So, if I understand you correctly,

1) She is trying to set a date with you but is stopping short of making concrete plans.

2) She says she has a boyfriend that she doesn’t love but won’t leave because it will break his heart.

...

Yeah we already had some outings and kissed already once.
Between our outings we had breakes of a week or two. Maybe I should have just escalate things faster.

Anyways she is setting most of the times the contact. Writing me and then also suggesting some activities together. And sometimes I do the same.

So I am not sure if she is just playing games or not.

But that thing with the boyfriend she do not love but cannot leave right now: You said she wants to test what kind of man I am. What do you mean exactly. Should I try harder or leave her as she has a boyfriend?

[Maximus]

Now you are providing more information and perhaps I did not understanding the full situation correctly before.

Look, is it true she has a boyfriend or not? It may or may not be. It doesn’t really matter. she has shown an interest in you and you have already done more than what just friends would do.

women are branch swingers. They won’t leave one man until they have a firm grip on another man. Do you really want to be messing with a women that has a boyfriend?

If you are a bigger and better deal, she will leave him so it does not really matter what she says. Particularly if she has no real commitment, responsibility or investment to stay with him.

Just keep your relationship casual and light. Have fun with her and don’t be attached to any outcome. Don’t chase her around, become needy or try to get her to be your girlfriend. If it is true, that she has a boyfriend and she wants to leave him for you, she could do the same to you. Remember that.

Let her bring up all the conversations about relationship and commitment.

Your job, is to make yourself available for dates, set up dates, to show her a good fun time and escalate.

Once you sleep with her the game changes.

Still, meet, talk and have fun with other women. You have no commitment to her and so far, she has not indicated that she wants to be exclusive with you.