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[Sotos]

What do I start with. Do I say "Hi Iam Cankertoo 28 years old and single"

Tell them that you are Sotos, it always works for me

[cankertoo]

Iam thinking of going out to some pub tonight.
I want some help on how to start a conversation.
Please help me with some ideas.

[Kikapu]

Iam thinking of going out to some pub tonight.
I want some help on how to start a conversation.
Please help me with some ideas.

You have to understand, that it is hard for anyone to tell you as to what to say to a woman that you might meet tonight in the pub. We don't know you or the other person. Is not as if you can write few lines on your shirt sleeve and use them on her.

What you need to do, is to help yourself first in building interest, character, personality, humour, wit, adventure, and many other common interest that helps people in a conversation, otherwise, once you have used up your couple of lines on her, you will be looking into your empty beer glass alone.

But since all of the above will not happen before tonight, I would say, if you find someone that will interest's you, maintain eye contact with her as much as possible, and see if she will respond in the same manner. If she does, and she is alone or couple of girlfriends, you can ask her if she wants to play pool or darts or just a chat. Keep the conversation simple and try to be humorous, but don't act like a clown.

You already know that I hate bars and Discos for finding a woman. But last time, when the woman you asked to dance with said to you, she could not dance, you should have not given up right away, instead should have offered to teach her if you knew how to dance, and if not, claim the same, and asked her what she liked to do instead, and left the place together.

So you were able to do the "Pursue" part OK. Now try the "Pursue and Persuade" together.

One more thing. I hope you're not using "cankertoo" as your name.!!

Good luck.

[ecpersonals]

Hi cankertoo,

Like sal said, think strategy, talk to the fat short ugly girl first, OR if there is a guy in the group, always talk to him first. Smile and ALWAYS tell them you can only stay a few minutes because you have to do something (like meet your friends).

[Kikapu]

Hi cankertoo,

Like sal said, think strategy, talk to the fat short ugly girl first, OR if there is a guy in the group, always talk to him first. Smile and ALWAYS tell them you can only stay a few minutes because you have to do something (like meet your friends).

This is fascinating, lie and deceive from the start.

Can you give us few examples how you did with these "strategies".

[cankertoo]

Kikapu thank you very much for the ideas and the encouragement you give me. I really appreciate you help.

Ecpersonals thats for your help. I really appreciate it too.
I have one question, if I start talking to the ugly short girl first and then move on to the pretty girl, then won't the short girl feel bad about it? I dont want to make anyone feel bad.

[MarsdenCuckoo]

Just a thought..... offer to buy her a drink! You could then mention that you're new to the area and ask for help/directions re. finding a particular place you've heard of? Is it really good i.e. asking for her opinion. Above all be attentive - SUCH an aphrodisiac. Compliment her on her hair/outfit/eyes/way she talks.... whatever you find attractive and just go from there.

Above all, don't try too hard.... be yourself; the 'love of your life' will find you when you least expect it!

Enjoy life and be happy - be the type of person YOU would like to spend time with!

Have a great evening.

[ecpersonals]

Kikapu: What part of what i said was a lie? Maybe he does have friends waiting at another table. The FIRST thing a woman thinks when approached buy a strange man in a pub is how to get rid of him. (If he didn't captivate her interest immediatly). Just set her mind at ease.

But NEVER EVER buy a drink for a girl you don't know. EVER. THIS IS THE BEST advice i can give you. She can get free drinks from ANY guy in the pub whenever she wants, don't do it.

The fat girl won't feel bad if she knows you are not attracted to her, you want to befriend the fat girl not flirt with her.

That said, i am a real Pussi anyway and get approach anxiety just like most guys, but most times they approach me and i take it from there.

[Kikapu]

Kikapu: What part of what i said was a lie?

That said, i am a real Pussi anyway and get approach anxiety just like most guys

I did not imply that you were lying about anything. I was just saying that cankertoo will be lying and making his situation worse than it already is. He does not need to get caught in a series of lies, just to play games on a pretty girl at the expense of another one, who may not even have interest in him. Better to find out from her directly, the girl he is interested in, in the first place.

[Kikapu]

Just a thought..... offer to buy her a drink! You could then mention that you're new to the area and ask for help/directions re. finding a particular place you've heard of? Is it really good i.e. asking for her opinion. Above all be attentive - SUCH an aphrodisiac. Compliment her on her hair/outfit/eyes/way she talks.... whatever you find attractive and just go from there.

Above all, don't try too hard.... be yourself; the 'love of your life' will find you when you least expect it!

Enjoy life and be happy - be the type of person YOU would like to spend time with!

Have a great evening.

These are good sound advice. If I could add one more thing, that would be for Cankertoo, not to become too desperate. It's not the end of the world. It is only a matter of time, before he will meet the right woman for himself.