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[allanm]

Well you ask for advice ? surely it would have been alot simpler to cut down or give up....................... easy l would have thought.
But then you must have thought wife / kids or drink ??????? what a good choice you made and now you are asking how you can get out of paying. Well what a sorry what a sad pathetic person you must beor will be soon. Having worked with people who have been let down and abused by their partners, the only advice that should be given is to you is see a shrink.
CJ

[sarahUK]

Allanm you are harsh . People have problems and need help , I dont think paying his own mortgage and his wifes mortgage and child support is fair , his own yes child support yes but his wifes should be split down the middle he should pay for his children but not his ex she too is an adult and should have thought about all this before she asked him to leave .

[devil]

Allanm you are harsh . People have problems and need help , I dont think paying his own mortgage and his wifes mortgage and child support is fair , his own yes child support yes but his wifes should be split down the middle he should pay for his children but not his ex she too is an adult and should have thought about all this before she asked him to leave .

And do you think it's fair on his part to drink away the household earnings and time while she was left alone to bring up the kids? I'm sorry but I have no sympathy with people whose actions break up their own marriage. I've seen it with my own daughter's marriage: just at the moment when she needed the most support (diagnosis with MS), he made himself unavailable to help, using the household as a hotel. At the moment, there are acrimonious divorce proceedings, essentially because of this, with his trying to refuse any reasonable support for her, despite her being officially 75% disabled, working 2 h/day. Her lawyer has made a demand to the judge that he be made to pay half his salary, after deductions, for her support, because it is probable that she will not be able to work at all in the foreseeable future. The only bright side of this affair is that both their kids are major.

He that diggeth a pit shall fall into it.

[sarahUK]

that is a different situation , if he is such a bad person he will get whats coming to him but as we dont know the whole story shall we not try to drive him to suicide , I watched my parents go through a breakup recently they are back together now but I had to look after my mum for 4 months because my dad needed time on his own, im only 20 and Im not angry with either because they are not just parents but they are people , they are a couple and couples go through these things regardless of children, better to split up and be happy alone rather that stay together and be unhappy infront of the children

[pantheman]

For those that have made too many assumptions here is my piece;

1. He hadn't said he was in the pub all the time, he could have been drinking at home
2. He hadn't mentioned his financial situation, he may be well placed and money no issue
3. He only gave limited information, length of time of problem, what help if any sought etc so everyone has assumed their own cases were a match to his.

As for supporting his under aged kids, YES he must. As for his wife NO she can get her own, but also depends on the age of the kids. If very young, maybe hard for her too, but not enough info so can't really say.

Its always easy for people to judge others and say easy (like allanm) drinking, smoking, gambling, unless you are part of it (and i am not any of those for the record) its always easy to say just stop. But everyone knows its not like that. These people do need help, but above all they need to accept the problem and start to help themselves first and foremost.

StuartN, you should seek professional legal advice and not discuss this openly on a forum. You haven't given all the information and i daren't say, may even harm you in the long run if you were to take some incorrect advice and hence actions.

I do wonder however, what support his wife gave him (if any) prior to asking him to leave.

Best of luck anyway whichever way you choose to go.

[CopperLine]

StuartN,
Pantheman is right. See my posting, the first response to your question : take welfare advice first, followed by legal advice, and don't take opinions adn speculations from a public forum (the latter, however well-meaning, could lead to disaster).