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[GG]

I know it sounds extremely sexist.

BUT. A couple that are apart for many many months may want to sleep around and its only fair that both should be allowed but a man can love his wife and while away on business sleep with many women and still love his wife. Most women are 'emotionally' attracted to a man before they sleep with him and so are more likely to have feelings and maybe make a decision to leave her husband. Am I wrong? Are you girl willing to sleep around with no strings attached? If so Dial 0800 GG GG GG.

[reportfromcyprus]

You know what, GG, I don't buy this line that men are able to sleep with women other than their wife/girlfriend because of biological drives.

It sounds like a typical excuse to me. An excuse to trivialise the hold your woman has over you and feel more powerful so that you're not vulnerable.

Unfaithfulness brings social diseases, breaches of trust and legal action

If there are real men around, they will take responsibility for their actions and only commit when they are ready. Otherwise...they ain't men, in my book.

[GG]

If there are real men around, they will take responsibility for their actions and only commit when they are ready. Otherwise...they ain't men, in my book.

The original question was about partners allowing eachother to sleep with others. I merely made an observation that from my experience I have seen that women who sleep with other men are usually emotionally attached and have genuine feelings of affection for that man.

Whereas men are happy to have sex without emotion, just like a work out. Thats all I'm saying. Do you agree or disagree with my observation?

[sal]

It's like on Sex and the City (first episode to be precise) when Carrie investigates whether women are capable of having sex like men. For the life of me can't remember whether she finds out they can or can't!

But I think in general amongst my female friends most cannot have sex without some kind of attachment OR (and prob most importantly) thinking that something else is going to come of it if they do. If they do have 'sex like a man' then afterwards they usually end up feeling shit about themselves and the situation. Even if they were full of bravado at the beginning of the episode!

You can't speak for a full species of woman but in general feelings are involved (although, I do know exceptions to the rule...)

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[shoushoucos]

You can't speak for a full species of woman but in general feelings are involved (although, I do know exceptions to the rule...)

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THERE ARE NO SUCH RULES. AS SUCH THERE ARE NO EXEPTIONS!

Women are no different to men. They are also doing it for pleasure, like men do it, according to you. With out emotions!

[Svetlana]

It is interesting that it is usually men who are blamed for promiscuity; for every man sleeping around I would have assumed there was female involved too

Lana

[reportfromcyprus]

I disagree GG

Men must have some kind of emotional reaction to cheating, even if it's only guilt.

That's another thing I don't buy, that men are robots and can have sex as unemotionally as if it were just another workout. Even workouts cause reactions - euphoria, triumph, endorphin rushes.

Unless it's a truly open relationship in which both parties consciously make the decision to sleep with other partners, it's down-to-earth cheating.

[GG]

I think good sex requires emotion and the 'workout' sex is second rate sex. Nevertheless the majority of men I know disagree with me. Maybe its a macho thing.

[reportfromcyprus]

Perhaps they're not comfortable expressing their true emotions (or don't know what they really are yet). Also, unless the man is ready to settle, emotions are maybe second priority to other pursuits and they're repressed or ignored.

I will say that men are better at compartmentalising thoughts and emotions, sometimes this goes too far though. For example: she's not my wife. I'll sleep with someone else, but it doesn't mean anything because she's not my wife. It doesn't matter what I feel about her...because she's not my wife.

That's compartmentalising, but I think there's emotion involved - just in another compartment

[sal]

You can't speak for a full species of woman but in general feelings are involved (although, I do know exceptions to the rule...)
x

THERE ARE NO SUCH RULES. AS SUCH THERE ARE NO EXEPTIONS!
Women are no different to men. They are also doing it for pleasure, like men do it, according to you. With out emotions!

Rule schmule!

Oh get over it. I don't mean RULE like a.... RULE - I mean in terms of the females I know the VAST majority of them have feelings for the people they have sex with, however, I know a TINY MINORITY of ladies (infact, just 2 to be precise) who are adamant that they can have sex (in the sense of the Sex and the City episode I mentioned) 'like men'. No feelings. No shitty guilty. No wondering if they'll call. Just sex.